Chapter 7: Make Up Draft 1.0

Make up

Makeup is a complimentary enhancement product that should technically only be bought or worn in a way that compliments one’s existing features and assets and/or covers up or minimizes one’s flaws.

Make up should be avoided if it makes one’s skin break-out, makes one uglier, emphasizes one’s pimples and most of all overly thick and ‘cake-ish’ application must be avoided in order to facilitate the skin to breathe.

In my wardrobe analogy, make up represents the boyfriends in the girls’ lives.

Relationships, in this case the boyfriend, should be complimentary. God made men and women to compliment each other- as companions and not competitors (as a help-mate). Eve was taken from Adam’s ribs not his head to rule over him or his toes to be ruled by him or trampled upon.

A relationship should help your daughter grow as a person and make her be better. They should enhance the abilities that the girl already has and help her realize the strengths she has yet to realize. Just like makeup, the boyfriend should help the girl be the best she can be – someone better than if she were to live her life single.

Better than simply telling them, show them. If you want to teach your girls to go down the right love paths, behave yourself in a manner that is uplifting and encouraging.

The best gift you can give to your children is to love each other. When you love each other you love naturally flows from a horizontal manner to a vertical manner that reaches us the children.

How you treat each other give us a preview of how marriage life will be like and it can either encourage or set a standard for your daughter to follow or drastically poison the view of marriage or even boyfriend and girlfriend relationships.

Here’s a positive example from my parents. It’s how my dad treats my mom. My dad opens the door for her, makes and buys her gifts out of the blue, picks her up in spite of distance, follows her to her conferences and goes swimming even though he rather just play tennis!

I reflected upon this one day and realized that my dad’s love and actions towards my mother had impacted my relationships greatly.

I started my first serious relationship when I was 16 and had a couple of diverse relationships after my first teenage love. Most of the relationships started off fine, the boys weren’t abusive, they were relative decent though hugely irritating at times, treated me like princesses, showered love upon …etc…..but yet I felt that they weren’t the one for me.

I ended most of my relationship not because wither party fell in love with someone else but more so because I just felt it wasn’t right. The fit wasn’t comfortable and I felt that the relationship was transforming me into someone whom I didn’t respect or like. I felt controlled at times, in which it lead to a spiral of unhappy quiet moments that no one saw. I managed my feelings well but inside I just knew that I knew that I knew that I had to get out.

I realized now that it was because none of them could live up to the standards that my dad had set. Parents play a very important role in their daughters’ lives and represent the first romantic relationship in our lives.

Talk more about the importance of living good examples in romance. And how they can still do it today even if they haven’t been doing so.

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Another thing I wished my parents taught me or talked to me about was sex.

Sex is so important. It was the basis of how we were created. And given the bombardment of the media we need you to ground us with the values you want us to have otherwise we are just going to learn it from the internet, magazines, books and friends. Furthermore, sex isn’t a very explored area that isn’t openly talked about in our schools and conservative society. It is important that as parents we guide our daughters in the right way.

Insert stuff from sex god?